What went wrong?

Her name was Udora Staley, and his name was Bob Adams. and their marriage was made in heaven. He had a house and acreage, and she had a big heart.

 They always wanted a large family, and they had five of their own, and adopted her sister's four kids when she and her husband were killed in a tragic accident. 

 When another tragedy occurred in their neighborhood, she insisted they take the kids in-- so now they had 12, but Bob was hard working and managed to support their large family. 

 They applied for and got food stamps and other benefits as needed.  Others helped a little, but some worried that the Adams family had taken on too much. Of course they loved Udora and her big heart.  They even helped her with other government programs, local and federal, so they could cope.

 All along, the idea was to keep the children busy on their small “farm", growing food and fruit etc. but it never seemed to work out. Some of the kids did try to work hard, but they felt it was not fair that the others did not help. 

 About that time there was a need for families to help out with abandoned kids from another country, so of course Udora was quick to respond, and they took in 10 children of various ages, and one older, and crippled woman. 

 Actually they were not children, but older teens and one was 22.  Poor Udora was caught in the middle of several very serious fights, and one 17 year old knocked her down and took her purse. There were other reports of " lost" money or items, but she never pressed charges, In fact she had such a big heart that she defended the culprits, knowing that all they needed was more love. 

 About this time Bob, who worked two jobs and tried to keep the house repaired ( and added on to), developed  a life threatening disease. He was optimistic and felt he could lick it, but eventually he died. 

 Udora was grief stricken, as he was the only real provider.Still, she carried on and even took in a foster child, and later a new born left on their doorstep. Everyone knew that Udora had a big heart and would take on more care. She was wonderful. 

 She was not that old when she died. Her big heart gave out.

 The funeral was large and many people came to pay tribute to the lady with the big heart.  They were generous in their praise of Udora and how she had taken on many burdens all by herself, and suffered quietly.

  There was one sour note however, as her family was very upset at her leaving. They were not used to caring for themselves, and there was a lot of infighting over property etc.  Everything fell in disrepair and fighting.  .Recrimination and bad feelings ensued.  

 There was an old tree on the property, and someone noticed that Udora's name was carved on it. USA it said, in big letters. 

 Udora had such a big heart. What went wrong?